I think I posted this on another blog long ago, which no longer exists, but it describes many second-generation, hyphenated Indians like myself:
India is for me a difficult country. It isn't my home and cannot be my home; and yet I cannot reject it or be indifferent to it; I cannot travel only for the sights. I am at once too close and too far.
--V.S. Naipaul, from his book India: A Wounded Civilization.